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Old 07-07-2010, 04:51 AM   #31
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Yoga also improves orgasm. Orgasm involves rapid contractions of the pelvic floor muscles that run between the legs. In Western medicine, Kegel exercises strengthen these muscles and intensify orgasm. (To do Kegels, contract and relax the muscles that squeeze out the last drops of urine.) In yoga, the pelvic floor muscles are known as moola bandha. Yoga strengthens them, providing benefits similar to Kegel exercises.


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Old 07-25-2010, 11:45 PM   #32
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Hello futureking
I know India somewhat, having lived there a year. I read the newspapers, stories of corruption were an everyday tragedy. And the ordinary people were so frustrated. Like you I imagine.

But your name troubles me a little, "futureking". It seems you have very big plans for yourself, to be monarch, rather than for your country.

Your country is presently a democracy (though a badly functioning one). Do you want to rule it as absolute ruler, as "king". Are you a man of such high moral constitution that you do not need to be accountable to the people? Are you thinking that maybe yoga will purify you and make you even more fit for your unassailable position? Surely the belief in ones own perfection is just another form of corruption.

Your name is so suggestive.... but I don't really know anything about you.

Tell us.
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Old 09-07-2010, 04:30 AM   #33
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hello futureking,
i think you are a very good person,because you want to leave your desire for your country.i respect you and your feeling.

I dont know much i know that you can control you your sexual desire by yog sadhana.

you can read books on this by Baba Ramdev, their are many other books on this topics.

all the best.
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Old 09-07-2010, 09:41 AM   #34
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Well... Thought of discussing about this 2-3 days back itself....but stopped..thinking that some innocent members might get embarassed....

In my previous posts, in some other thread......I told that from past 9 months I am practicing Praanayama,Bhastvik, Naadi Pranayaama, Sudarshan Kriya etc....and getting some sensations in forehead & lowerback....so a couple of members put it as Ajna,Kundalini awakening......

Now the thing I am observing is.....from the past 6-7 months or so....I am having a high sexual urge.....( I am unmarried )....doesnt mean that previously I didnt have any sexual urge but ever since I started all the above said practices...the urge has been High....previously it wasnt to this extent...

I may sound stupid to link each and every thing to the practices, awakening .... But is this sudden high sexual urge due to the practices or any chakra awakening....as the fact is before ( the practices ) I didnt have this much of urges....and I thought yoga practices subsides/controls the urges....I am confused.....
You are missing a vital thing. You are awakening the energy but not directing it towards nobler planes. Take help and guidance from a seasoned practitioner.
If you subscribe to bhakti marg too then this is the time to connect with your inner bhakti bhaav. When one prays to God and surrenders himself to Him, the energy will not move in any wrong direction. God will start taking care of things. You just have to let Him do this. Bhakti maarg will sublimate the ego, which causes all the problems.
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Old 09-07-2010, 09:59 AM   #35
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You seem to be young, don't be too sure that your mind shall not change. As you grow more mature you shall realise that one major problem on the course of spirtual evolution is the human mind.

You are from India, I don't have to remind you of the hundreds of mythological stories of sages succumbing to desire, do I?

I don't think not marrying is a right decision for you. I think its better to look for a like-minded girl, share with her what your future plans are and if she is on the same page, marry her.

And yes I am curious too, why the name 'futureking'? You wanna be a king?
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Old 09-21-2010, 08:58 AM   #36
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The Asanas help you to reduce the sexual desires

To reduce the sexual desires, nothing can do more than meditation and asanas. In the preactice of Asanas, the inversion poses are the most efficent ones. Headstand, shoulderstand, even the palm balancing or elbow balancing poses do not only reduce your sexual desires,but also keep your body and mind in a young state, so headstand and shoulderstand are called "the king of yoga" and " the queen of yoga". They make you look ten or twenty years young if you regularly practice them, say, to hold in headstand for half hour per day, you save all the money for cosmetics and facial maintainance products.

Question is how long can you stay in the pose?
in order to hold in inversion poses in a prolonged time, some tools can be used such like chair or block and belt...well to know these details, surf the internet about Iyengar yoga, hopefully you can find some photos with instructions to indicate you clear directions...

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Old 09-21-2010, 01:50 PM   #37
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To reduce the sexual desires, nothing can do more than meditation and asanas. In the preactice of Asanas, the inversion poses are the most efficent ones. Headstand, shoulderstand, even the palm balancing or elbow balancing poses do not only reduce your sexual desires,but also keep your body and mind in a young state,


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this could be good for people to know who are in relationships and have a lack of sexual deire and a frustrated partner. Or for instructors to know who have students come to them and speak about that issue.
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Old 09-21-2010, 10:24 PM   #38
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I am from India. I want to remain unmarried through out my life. But I don't want to become Sanyasi(Monk). Because I have a big aim in my life. This aim is for goodness of my people and country.
Many things are restricted for sanyasies like they can not participate in politics. But I want to participate in politics. I am only one child of my mother therefore I have take care of her. Therefore I can not become sanyasi.But 1 thing is sure, I don't want to be married because only unmarried man can fight against corruption. But the problem is my sexual desire. I want to control it so that I can live calm and happy through out my life.

Is there any medicine or yog aasan or food that can help.
You can't compete with millions of years of evolution! Your sex drive is why you are here.
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Old 09-23-2010, 10:36 PM   #39
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I find that the most difficult things to control are the things that we have been doing for thousands of years. These require the most focussed discipline to begin to remove them.
Sexual desires may become even greater when regularly meditating because you have an immense store within you of recollection and experience. Sexual desires may even become grotesque in thought or even action as you begin to remove these thoughts and feelings.

The past and recent ongoing problems that have been in the Catholic church with some priests behaving inappropriately, I feel, is an example of this, and of course it is not just in the Catholic church.

The word temptation is of course mentioned in many religious scripts because it is a very real problem...you have to have battles with yourself if it is your aim to eg, become enlightened

Im not using the word battle lightly here....
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Old 09-25-2010, 06:45 AM   #40
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To fight this big battle

Sex desire is the most original and primitive urge of any animal . The seed of this desire you are carrying in you is much bigger than you can imagine, because it is the storage of not only this life but even many past lives, and you could have been through millions of lives by now.......So imagine how strong this desire could be....

Without sex, there won't be any life, that is true. But in a country like India, this natural desire has been greatly surpressed, people are not allowed to enjoy it before marriage, that is why, a lot of young men are suffering from it. I used to live in India for three years, my young indian male friends were very interested to find a girl friend from foreign land..because indian girls are too difficult to get..

So maybe you should try to find a foreign girl friend.........ha ha ha .....


seriously speaking according my personal experience in Meditation like vipassana, it really helped me a lot in this aspect, I don't agree that meditation will make it worse, unless you are using a wrong technigue...


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I find that the most difficult things to control are the things that we have been doing for thousands of years. These require the most focussed discipline to begin to remove them.
Sexual desires may become even greater when regularly meditating because you have an immense store within you of recollection and experience. Sexual desires may even become grotesque in thought or even action as you begin to remove these thoughts and feelings.

The past and recent ongoing problems that have been in the Catholic church with some priests behaving inappropriately, I feel, is an example of this, and of course it is not just in the Catholic church.

The word temptation is of course mentioned in many religious scripts because it is a very real problem...you have to have battles with yourself if it is your aim to eg, become enlightened

Im not using the word battle lightly here....
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Old 09-25-2010, 01:30 PM   #41
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(ALREADY STATED BY EARLIER POST) I believe Buddhas last obstacle was thoughts of sex but he didn't give up. Dont be too hard on yourself..it will take time to remove sexual urges that will arise. Meditation may bring them closer to the surface, there will be many layers to remove...after meditation, not during necessarily...although it can happen during meditation this is usually because one has had the thought as meditation begins, so avoid meditating with any thought of sex preceding the meditation.

When you fail, (EVEN FOR DAYS), do not allow this to bother you, just keep trying and eventually all the layers will be dealt with and cease to be a problem. It has taken me many years to be completely free of any sexual desires. I never became disheartened when I slipped up. It is normal to slip up.....now nothing and no person can stir me to any sexual cravings or stimulations, rest assure it is achievable and you will achieve it in time. You sound as if you are on a mission in life, you sound as if you have the abilities to do it because of your mission..I wish you every success on your very noble mission Futureking, I will include you in my thoughts to wish you strength in this matter

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Old 09-26-2010, 06:44 PM   #42
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We also need to separate the physical act of sex from a "desire" for sex.

Yoga is not absurd and has never asked for NEVER getting into the act. The fact that human beings need to bring other good souls to life to perpetuate as a species, has been known to Yogis. What one has to question is a desire, expecially when the driver for the desire is pleasure and not a conjugal duty. This desire, as many have observed here on the thread, is very hard to get rid of. The dividing line between a natural initiative and a conditioned impulse is very thin. And the media bombardment to amplify the impulse is fearsome. So, as rightly advised by kareng, it is prudent to have patience. Slip-ups need to be taken in stride, yet effort never given up. We need to doggedly practice Yoga until a disinterest is developed in desire for sex, until such disinterest is not seen as 'weird' and until no pang of deprivation results.

Yoga also wants us to enlarge the concept. An undue desire for sex is indulgence and we need to get rid of all such desires. For example, over-eating that goes beyond hunger-satiation, gossipping that goes beyond knowing someone, shopping beyond basic needs - are all indulgence. Focus on sex alone also shows our modern-day lop-sided obsession with it.
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Old 09-30-2010, 05:11 AM   #43
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You need to have sex man..that's the way out.
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Old 10-05-2010, 12:49 PM   #44
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I am new to this forum, and probably late for this thread. But for reducing sexual desires the best thing is inversion postures like the headstand, shoulder stand, plow posture etc. The flying angel posture is useful for increasing the sexual retentive power, as in preventing nocturnal emissions, thereby causing your body to
A. produce less sexual fluid, meaning greater conservation of energy
B. subtly re-absorb sexual fluid, which is highly beneficial

The most effective way to reduce sexual desire though is through dietary control. I don't mean starving yourself, I mean eating simple foods in moderation and especially trying not to over eat.

Also, unwanted sexual desire tends to creap up when you are mentally weak or out of balance in some other area, so try to keep a fairly regular schedule and avoid getting too tired or sick.

Celebacy is not for everyone, and it should be practiced with proper motivation and for the right reasons. Certainly many people who aspire to be celebate would be spiritually better off entering a loving, respectful, and healthy sexual relationship. But for certain people with certain goals then celebacy should be respected for the significant benefits that it does provide.

How's that for a first post? Kind of an akward one to jump right into!
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Old 10-05-2010, 01:11 PM   #45
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Wow, this thread sure is a refreshing change from some like "How can I use Yoga to have great sex?"
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Old 11-28-2010, 07:20 PM   #46
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Hi,

I am from India. I want to remain unmarried through out my life. But I don't want to become Sanyasi(Monk). Because I have a big aim in my life. This aim is for goodness of my people and country.
Many things are restricted for sanyasies like they can not participate in politics. But I want to participate in politics. I am only one child of my mother therefore I have take care of her. Therefore I can not become sanyasi.But 1 thing is sure, I don't want to be married because only unmarried man can fight against corruption. But the problem is my sexual desire. I want to control it so that I can live calm and happy through out my life.

Is there any medicine or yog aasan or food that can help.
Hey future king, you exactly sound like me. To an extent that I had to check my emails dated Feb'2010 to make sure that I did not start this thread. And now here I am b'coz I think I have found my mirror image..my brother. When I say my mirror image, I mean that I really want to do something better for my motherland (India) , I don't want to get married and I am also looking to find a solution which can make me escape the shackles of sexual desires. I read all the replies and would definitely try some of the asanas like HeadStand, ShoulderStand and balancing of palms.

I also want to keep in touch with you b'coz we are like-minded and may support each other in our ideas of a corruption-free country and then later this world. I am not sure if I am allowed to put personal contact details but if it is the destiny, then we might come across some day.

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Old 11-28-2010, 11:08 PM   #47
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I my view its too immature to think of not marrying, giving up sex, for life targets like fighting corruption! A whole lot of new perspective on things is needed here. A complete new look at things and paths. My suggestion would be to NOT deny oneself sex and companionship of woman/women.

A better idea would be to put up an advert in classified personnels 'Looking for someone committed to a life of social service and fight against corruption'
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Old 11-28-2010, 11:37 PM   #48
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Wow, this thread sure is a refreshing change from some like "How can I use Yoga to have great sex?"
Don't tempt me.
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Old 11-29-2010, 01:14 AM   #49
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I can understand the not wanting to get married part but no sex I don't understand.


I saw 2Girls1Cup on the internet somewhere once and it cured me of sex for quite a while. You should look into that, I'm sure it would help.
Thanks for mentioning the video and I googling it and actually watching it!!!!! Its in my head now, and I do not know what to do! lol
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Old 11-30-2010, 01:05 AM   #50
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Urdva Retus ? turn your sex drive into a blissful experience? idk
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Old 11-30-2010, 01:07 AM   #51
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I heard that some aasana's can help to remain bachelor.They are not 100% working solution but can help.
If it is true please let me know about those things.
I've heard interesting stories of sages in India chopping off their organs in order to curb sexual desires. Obviously, that did not help... as sexual desire, or any desire for that matter, arises in the mind & not the body. All asanas point towards mind control to curb any kind of desire/s. In a way, ultimately, extent of mind control dependa on level nf will power and asanas might not always prove effective, as our minds have a very bad habit of forsaking us at the wrong time!
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