How to help a daughter find herself

[Anna Lyons]

My daughter is 25 + and cannot get her life together. She cant hold down a job or keep a relationship. She doesnt what to take responsibility for her own life. When she quits her job, I have to support her. She was diagnoised wth bipolar disorder in 2004. She takes medication for this. However, not much has changed with her in the past 2yrs. I would dearly love to help her, but she hasnt the motivation to follow through on anything I suggest. Any ideas to console a grieving mother. ( Grieving for her lost daughter. )

[InnerAthlete]

This is quite a situation. I'm not sure "we" have the power to help others in the way you might want to help your daughter. It sounds as though you are already doing the things you can to help.

While difficult, we are not to deprive a person of their experiences in this life, this body. The fact that your daughter has a bipolar disorder probably keeps you in the role of suporting her when she loses her job and that's not a very clean relationship for you to maintain. It must feel as though you are empowering her "untogetherness".

We are also taught through yoga to be compassionate and that too needs to have safe boundaries.

So what I am going to suggest is to not look at how you can "help
your daughter but rather what balance there is for you in this and what ways you might champion your well being. Yoga is not merely the asana but a way of living. We should look less at our teacher's poses and more at their lives. You are to be your daughter's teacher and she should look at how you live so it models boundaries, health, and balance.

[memoria]

quit telling her shes beautiful all the time, she probably needs to lose some weight.