Today is the start of the 11th week that I have not seen him. It is my vacation now, and I had originally wanted to travel abroad so that I can stop thinking about him during my free time. However, I finally recognise that I am simply running away from my self-denial if I choose to go for holidays. I should learn to pick up the courage to face my fears. Staying put gives me the most empowering time to face that lonliness that I usually get from a long vacation.
I am going to go to a new yoga center to learn yoga,and like what many of you had said, I need to practise the art of forgiveness.I understand only through time,will I allow forgiveness to sink in.
I just logged into the website to see the schedule of my ex-yoga center. His name is still there and they now have new sequences, new yoga classes. There is a new “partner yoga” class. The name is him and another master. My heart sinks at the thought of how those excited silly female members are going to rush in to see 2 masters doing partner yoga and go ga-ga over them. It sucks. I feel a deep sinking feeling again- agony. I can’t believe just seeing the name on the schedule can make me feel this way.
I feel tempted at times to go back there to take a look at him (as my membership is still valid for another few months). But I know I probably can’t. The smell, the music, the ambience , everything in that place makes me weak. Ironically, the time that my membership ends, will approximately be around the time his contract ends . Sometimes I wonder if I can handle the fact that he won’t be around anymore when he really goes back to his home country.
I thank u all for the wisdom shared.It’s a journey I will have to take.
Btw, it is amazing how my life is returning to the way it used to be. I think this is what u call “full circle”. It is such a shame. It made it seem like nothing has happened when in fact, I’ve been thru so much hurt.